Support through Acceptance Without Exception

When I think about life, I many times use analogies, metaphors and parables. Sometimes it is very hard for people to get beyond their own thoughts, so they simply can open up their ears, which stems from the heart. So that they may listen and feel. Many people reach success. In today's world, it has become a necessity to be recognized. As fame has been overshadowed by infamy. We all want to be recognized, in fact we need it. And biblically speaking it is a part of life as God said to Abraham, for you will be famous amongst all the nations, knowing that this is of human nature.  Often I think how people get lost in the shuffle. As we have forgotten the smallest gestures that have helped us succeed.
When I think about this, it immediately takes me to the game of chess. Though just a game, what an incredible metaphor for life.  Starting from the pawns, to the king. Yet, one piece must always start, and in life, one person must always start the process.  No move can be made without another move to deflect and/or protect.  As people are willing to sacrifice in the smallest to largest ways. But in the opposition of chess where the goal is to win the game, counting on each and every piece to achieve success; in life the goal is not only to beat your opponent, but many times to use every person you can to do so. In chess, we simply pick the pieces back up and start over.  As it is known that without every piece on the board, ultimately there is no possibility of success. Yet, we pass this over hour by hour, day by day, year by year. As we look down upon people.

 I always wonder what pain others are feeling and what brings joy to their life.  Going through a life full of illness and torture. I have truly reached deep inside for a greater understanding. As we are involved with ourself, we forget about others and then we pass judgment.  An example of this: if a man is trying to make a meeting, a career opportunity that will change his life, his family's life, on the way to receive an advancement, a promotion in his life, he stops at a gas station. The gas attendant pumps his gas, helps him to get to his opportunity faster, yet that man or woman is overlooked and never appreciated for the hard work they put in. This man has a small wage, yet could be providing for a family, struggling to succeed and reach their dreams and goals. Yet no credit is given to them because they are simply doing their job. And most of the time we look down upon these people. Yet this person that is helping you could be the next Martin Luther King Jr. or Albert Einstein or could end up being your best friend and supporter. Yet, how different it is and how the blame is twisted if your dreams and goals are not met because of your own irresponsibility.  Please stay with me here.

If the night before your tank runs on empty, causing you to rush the next morning.  As you pull into the gas station, you are not greeted. You pump your own gas, you tried to pay with your credit card, it doesn't work.  You go into the gas station itself to pay and there is a long line. you expect mountains to be moved because of your irresponsibility.  And as your opportunity passes, there are only two things that happen. You blame those people or you pity yourself.Taking responsibility, accepting responsibility.  You must do so for yourself, but also for others. Some people wake up with such extreme struggles and torment. We judge them for we feel that it is impossible for this to be happening without them causing it for themselves, so we assume the worst. Oh! The rose colored glasses that we see ourselves through.  We give no one the benefit of the doubt, and we bare false witness. Most people who live their life in health go through struggles of their own. Everyday, the importance of one individual outweighs the importance of the other and this happens billions of times every day. It is very easy to look within yourself and give others the credit that you'd do so for you.  But we choose to drown in our own bottomless pit. Most people spend their life wading. Yet, someone has already built a bridge for you, not to have to push through the water and muck with all the weight that is slowing you down.  Many times we take the bridge, but as we walk across it, we often burn it so that no one else can come across.  Every second of every day, it is the opportunity to set the perfect example for someone else.  But to do so, we must be a positive example for ourself.  We must support everyone. In my years on this earth, I have seen people come together for many different reasons. Yet, somehow they all end in tragedy for the need to be a part of something, whether good or bad, will be accepted and taken advantage of.  For in these instances, the cause seems to have no effect.

As I have layed in the hospital many a times, faced with death, but worse than that was mistreated and left for dead in horrible suffering.  I can not even remember the number of times I have been asked by a doctor, what would you like me to do, as my reply was simple. Please help. Please make me well. Through years of people hurting me, years of suffering, what no man should have to endure,  I have built up a strength.  Yet, that strength, no man should have.  If I were healthy, that strength would be worth something. It could be applied. As I have never been weak in my life, I have found that the stronger that I become, the less people want to help.  Again, I will use analogies to explain as I have done so for my family and for doctors.  Less than 50 years ago, people were enduring incredible sufferings. Finding strength to survive, yet the help was there. A hundred years ago a man could suffer a gunshot wound to his leg.  As part of my schooling, when I became a doctor (and though it has been years since I practiced) we had to learn the history of medicine.  Which by the way is derived and structured from Christianity.  Continuing, men would be bludgeoned over the head with a hammer or have to drink whiskey as their leg would be sawn off. It was expected for men to be tough. Some of them died. Some of them healed. Getting up everyday, working and helping, providing, supporting.  Til their body gave out yet suffering the whole time. Dying at the age of 35.

A person's strength now seems to be a sign of a lie. It is impossible, in the eyes of man, to believe that somebody could be dealing with something so horrific, but pick themselves up everyday and just do. I have seen people go into a hospital crying, screaming, which is a normal reaction to pain.  Coming down to something as simple as indigestion.  Yet, there comes a time in a man's life to be capable of enduring torture.They suck it up. They adapt. And as my body is riddled with cancer and every other disease possible, I many times am told that I am too large of a man, too well built, and too strong.  As I was told once that I can not be that sick because I was crossing my feet.  As I was recently in the hospital, my white cell count was 250,000, my red cell count was 2. I should not be alive.  But yet, here I am.  Though doctors refuse to do surgery, because of liability based upon the fact that I will in most likelihood die. Somehow the common sense and logic that I am a walking, talking miracle surpasses their common sense. Their humanity and the oath that they have taken.  It is not normal.  As I receive no peace. But yet my heart remains the same. As there are so many things I want to do.  but I cant. But what I can do, I do not try I just do.  I just take the action of doing. And with that I have a hard time keeping up.  I have lost many of my gifts, and I do not know if they can be fixed.  I look at the people along the way in my life, The people that are supposed to be the closest to me and I have had little or no support.  Yet, people that I have not physically met, some through social media have supported me more in one day than my family has done in their entire life.  Is it out of sight out of mind? Or is it that the people that do care and support do so because they love.  And they love without consequence.  It is just who they are. I surely did not have to go through these sufferings to be this way.  We are all born with the same heart and the same spirit. I believe there is a point in every person's life where they truly are in need.  And how easily that is passed over when the problem/problems become so great.that their life is turned into worthlessness.  

People are worthy. When they are in need and want the help, please do not deem yourself worthy of helping, for it is easy to come to the rescue, please do not throw people away.  Many people state that they will die for someone, but will you live for someone?  When we are in great need, we often turn our back on those who need.  When they are not and we come back into their lives, we are leaving those people with a feeling of worthlessness. Whether people support me or not, I still support them. People have hurt me along the way.  Yes I am not infallible, it angers me that they keep living their life in blessings without realizing what they have done as most continue on hurting me and of course, others.. But I understand that those that do the hurting are miserable, but I do not want this for them.  As I suffer, I seek out joy, and I want those people to find the same.  Not for me, but for themselves.  Happiness comes and goes, it is fleeting.  Joy is derived fro love and it sustain indefinitely, infinitely. It can not be taken away, it can not be lost and it will never have to be searched for again.  But I must add that we shall always long for it.  So when I state that I search for joy daily, it is not that i and searching for the the feeling of joy as it is constant, it is for the fact that I do not take it for granted and just like any virtue and everything in life, it can become greater and better.  Searching for that one day that you are so filled with joy and love, there s no room for anything else.  When I look at doctors, when I think about marriage.  You take an oath, a vow.  You have given your word.  We must take care of each other, love each other, I promise you this; if you hold out your hand in support, the person that latches on will never let go and you will have their support for the rest of your days. And through a chain of events, as we all have heard the term 6 degrees of separation, that does truly exist.  Yes, we have used the term pay it forward.  I do like that term, but it is slightly contradicting in itself. Meaning don't wait for someone to do good for you for you to do good for someone else. From the smallest to the largest gesture of love, the person you give it to will always remember. Your life has no meaning or purpose without God, without Christ,  without the Holy Spirit and you have no discernment. And it will have none without others.  As much as we would like to fool ourselves to believing that we don't need anyone, we are degrading ourselves and others in that thought. I wonder what life would be like if you were the only person on this planet.  What it would feel like to have no one. No one to talk to. No one to listen to. No one to touch. No one to laugh with.  No one to care.  And no one to love.

As I have lived my life seeing people make excuses for their behavior, going down to my own experiences, the two questions that I come up with to ask myself and others are simply this: Why and How? If you know the answer to these questions then you have done right by your own life and others, and in my last example. If you are to win a million dollars, no one asks why or how, why did I get this, how? Why did I deserve this? But if your neighbor does how you will quickly say why and how? Why do they deserve this? Why not me? But it must start with you. For what you want for others must come from what you want for yourself.  And if you want greatness for yourself, you surely should want it for others.  If you live your life in pity, crave, want that, then obviously, you can truly not want a healthy successful life for others. So let's stand up, walk tall. Unite! Support each other! Take Care of Each Other! Do Not take for granted what your savior has said. As Jesus Christ spoke, very clearly, you ARE your brother's keeper, and there is no exception.

~Joshua Jet Vaughan~

Speaking through your heart to make the world a little lighter.

I have started this blog for many reasons. There is much I have to say, yet more I would love to hear. I believe everyone has a story to tell. Good and Bad. We all have a voice and we all need to be heard. Here is your chance to share and care. With and for the people of this world. Whether it's funny, sad, happy, joyful, whether you're hurt, angry. If you're need is to share your dreams, to share your heart, simply to be heard. This is the place that you can call home. We are all ordinary; it is what we do that makes us extraordinary. Whether you are famous, rich, poor, lonely: through this we will all become a family. What we must learn is simple. Our words and our actions are only as good as the heart behind them. To lead we must follow. To follow we must lead. To realize that we know everything by understanding that we know nothing. And to realize that you are perfect by understanding that we will never reach perfection. Everyone has a story to tell. Here is your chance. We are here to learn and love through the grace of God.